How to discipline Kid's Tantrums by Using Positive Parenting Techniques

Every parent has a different way to grow their child but all have the same intentions. To grow an emotionally confident child, as a parent, we should understand that kid's tantrums are the immature brain's way of handling overwhelming emotions. Tantrums are common in children, especially toddlers and preschoolers. They show their feelings in a way of expressing frustration, anger, sadness, or other strong big emotions. By using positive parenting techniques we can emphasize our kid's tantrums or behavior and also strengthen our bond with them.

What is Positive Parenting?

Positive parenting technique is a way of raising children that involves caring, teaching, leading, communicating, and providing for their needs consistently and unconditionally. 😊

Discipline for kids' tantrums is required but not negative discipline. Positive parenting begins with positive discipline, and positive discipline involves being gentle and instructive.

Let’s take a common example

Your child is watching television and you set a limit. When the time is up, the child should stop watching television, but they don’t. Instead of screaming and scolding the child, you can stay calm and kind and let the child calm down too. This will help them soften their attitude and heart.

When the child is ready to listen, you can talk to them and explain why watching television for too long is not good for them. It can harm their eyesight and make their bodies tired because they are not doing any physical activity. Being tender helps you connect with your child on an emotional level so that they care about what you have to say.

 Tip # CONNECTION IS THE KEY TO PARENTING WITH JOY

5 Positive Parenting Techniques to Raise Emotionally Strong Kids(Kids Tantrums)  

1. Attachment

2. Respect

3. Forward-looking Parenting

4. The power of Empathy in Parenting

5. Positive Discipline

1. Attachments

Attachment is the bond between a child and their caregiver(Parents). It is formed when the parent is responsive to the child's needs. When a child has a secure attachment, they feel loved and secure. This helps their brain develop in a healthy way and they are better able to Self-regulate their emotions, cope with stress, and form healthy relationships in later life.

If a child does not have a secure attachment, they may experience behavioral problems, such as aggression, anxiety, or depression. They may also have difficulty forming healthy relationships in later life.

Here are some things you can do to help your child form a secure attachment:

• Be responsive to your child's needs. This means meeting their physical and emotional needs in a timely and consistent way.
• Be there for your child when they need you. This means being available to comfort them when they are upset, to play with them when they are happy, and to just be there for them.
• Be consistent in your parenting. This means providing your child with a predictable and reliable environment.
• Be loving and accepting of your child. This means letting them know that you love them unconditionally, no matter what.

2. Respect

Children are also human beings as we all are, so they deserve the same respect. Research has shown that children who have loving, nurturing parents grow a bigger hippocampus(it is a part of the brain that is important for memory), which promotes better memory, learning, and stress response. 

Some of the ways to demonstrate respect to your child

• Practicing communication skills and active listening with your child can help them develop important skills that will benefit them throughout their lives.

 Activities to teach them communication skills and active listening

Play games that involve listening and following directions. For example, you could play charades or Simon Says.

Read books together and talk about what happened in the story. This can help your child to learn about different types of communication and to practice listening for details.

Ask your child open-ended questions about their day. This will encourage them to share their thoughts and feelings.

Reflect back on what your child says to you. This shows that you are listening and that you understand what they are saying.

Avoid interrupting your child when they are talking. This shows that you respect their right to be heard.

Be patient and understanding. It takes time for children to develop good communication skills.

• Let children make decisions or choices on their own. Allowing them to make decisions about little things throughout their day helps them feel like they have some control and shows you respect them.

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For example, let them decide what they want to wear, eat, and have. However, you can tell them the consequences of their decisions so that they can make the right ones.

let's say, you could say, "Dear, I know you want to eat that candy, but it's not healthy. If you eat it, you might feel sick later. But it's your decision." Or, you could say, "It's cold outside. I think you should wear a jacket, but it's up to you."

By doing this, you allow the child to make their own decisions, but you also help them to understand the consequences of their choices.

• Respect their space and privacy according to your good judgment.

• Always make sure to speak kindly about children to others, especially in front of them. Children believe what we say about them create their thoughts and accept that into their self-concept as truth.

For example, if you talk to your partner about your child that they are not good at studying, they may start believing that and never try to change it.

Be positive. Instead of saying, "She's never going to learn how to ride a bike," try saying, "I know she can do it with a little more practice.

It is important to remember that children are listening to us all the time. Even when we think they are not paying attention, they are absorbing everything we say. So let's make sure that we are speaking kindly about them, always.

3. Forward-looking Parenting

Forward-looking parenting is a style of parenting that focuses on preventing problems before they arise. It involves being proactive and taking steps to address potential issues.

Here are two ways to practice forward-looking parenting:

1. Handle problems before they get out of hand. This means paying attention to your child's behavior and addressing any concerns early on. For example, if you notice that your child is starting to bully other children, you can talk to them about it and help them develop better social skills.
2. Have a plan of action for when problems arise. This means thinking about what you will do if your child encounters a problem, such as getting into a fight at school or failing a test. Having a plan will help you to respond to the situation calmly and effectively.

# Do you see a problem behavior beginning to arise in your child now? what is it and how you can address it proactively? Tell me in the comment section below.

4. The power of Empathy in Parenting

Empathy is a powerful tool that can be used to build strong relationships and help children to thrive. By being empathetic with children, we can help them to feel loved, supported, and understood.

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of a child. It is the ability to put yourself in a child's shoes and see the world from their perspective.

When we are empathetic with children, we are able to connect with them on a deeper level. We are able to understand why they are feeling the way they are feeling, and we are able to respond to their needs in a way that is helpful and supportive.

For example, let's say your child is crying because they lost their favorite toy. You could respond in a number of ways. You could get angry and tell them to stop crying. You could ignore them and hope they stop crying. Or, you could try to be empathetic.

If you are empathetic, you might say something like, "I can see that you're really sad because you lost your toy. It's hard to lose something you love." This shows your child that you understand how they are feeling, and it helps them to feel heard and understood.

You could also help your child to find a way to cope with their sadness. For example, you could offer to help them look for a new toy or you could let them cry on your shoulder.

5. Positive Discipline

Positive discipline can be a very effective way to discipline children. It is more likely to help children learn how to behave appropriately in the long run, and it is less likely to damage their self-esteem.

When a child misbehaves, it is often a sign that something is wrong. They may be feeling tired, hungry, or frustrated. They may also be trying to get your attention or test your limits.

The first step to dealing with misbehavior is to assess the need. What is the child trying to communicate? Are they tired, hungry, or frustrated? Are they trying to get your attention or test your limits?

Once you understand the need, you can address it. If the child is tired, give them a nap. If they are hungry, give them a snack. If they are frustrated, help them to solve the problem.

Sometimes, misbehavior is a signal that the child needs new boundaries. For example, if a child is jumping on the bed, you can say, "I understand that you want to jump, but the bed is not the right place to do it. You can jump on the floor instead."

By addressing the need and setting clear boundaries, you can help the child learn how to behave appropriately.

As we all know brain has two parts upper brain and the lower brain. how it works?

The upper brain is responsible for higher-order thinking, such as planning, decision-making, and problem-solving. It is also responsible for emotions, such as happiness, sadness, and anger. The upper brain is not fully developed in children, which is why they may sometimes make impulsive decisions or have difficulty controlling their emotions.

The lower brain is responsible for basic functions, such as breathing, heart rate, and digestion. It is also responsible for reflexes, such as the startle reflex. The lower brain is fully developed in children, which is why they are able to perform these basic functions without any problems.

As children grow and develop, their upper brain continues to develop. This is why they become better at planning, decision-making, and problem-solving as they get older. They also become better at controlling their emotions.

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